Diary of a Working Housewife

Wednesday March 21, 2018 9:30 PM:

Do all women wonder how they got here? How society expects us to juggle home, children, love, work, drink eight glasses of water everyday, and squeeze in the exercise session in between the load of laundry, homework, and making dinner. We end up feeling like failures if we don't achieve our daily to-do lists. Sad and unrealistic expectations that today I give you all permission to set on fire! Yes! Throw them out the window! Let's start by blaming our mothers! These superwomen who have guilted us into thinking we have to be as great as they are! Now, I'm not going to dish on Mom because I will never hear the end of it, but let's be realistic. Times have changed. Back in the day—mind you I'm 40 years old—moms could stay at home and tend to the needs of their children and the household, one income covered it all, and life was a bit more simple. No, I did not say that it was a piece of cake, being a housewife never is. No sick days, no pay, all of the work and none of the appreciation. Yes, I get it! BUT add a job we have to go to and please ask us when do we sleep?! The answer is barely ever! Resentment sets in when our significant other gets to sleep in late or go to bed early. Little by little our moods shift and then BOOM! We no longer feel like ourselves after so much has been thrown unto us. As I'm writing this, I am sick with the flu and so is my five-month-old son. My significant other has decided he is exhausted and has gone to sleep. It is 9:30 PM and I haven't showered. I stayed home from work today to be able to take care of my sick son. In between his naps, I have washed towels, disinfected the bathroom, Lysol sprayed the door knobs, made my daughters bed (the top bunk), washed dishes, and prepared dinner. I have also worked on homework that was weeks overdue, (I am enrolled in an online program), usually the result of all the chores I have mentioned above. The struggle is real! The more time you spend trying to catch up to what you didn't get to do that day the deeper you sink into the abyss that is guilt. Depression? Yeah, that little monster kicks in once in a while and you just want to quit it all! Well ladies, it's time to STOP! Easier said than done, I know, but I'm on a mission, starting today, to liberate my fellow women from seeing themselves as anything other than what they truly are. You are all wonderful women! Follow me as I lead you into the struggles of a working housewife. Whether you are a single mom, have a boyfriend, or are a married woman, you will see how much we are all experiencing the same feelings and doubts. We as women must stop judging each other and attempt to support each other emotionally as much as we are able to. It's OK to throw those chicken nuggets in the oven for dinner tonight! It's OK to fabreeze that school uniform for your little one to wear tomorrow! Go take a bath! It's OK to be human! In my next diary entry, I will talk about myself in more detail and show you that you are not losing your mind. You are not a failure! I will bring my daily challenges into light and expose the imperfections of raising a family, maintaining a household, and keeping a relationship all the while going to work every day without looking like you just got hit by a train. Hope everyone enjoys reading a diary of a working housewife! May the Goddess bless you all and surround you with her divine white light.

Venus