Lawnda Boston
Bio
I am a single mom who always feel the need to help people any shape or form. People are drawn to me rather for me to listen, or give good advice either way I am here to help.
Stories (4/0)
Life
In the news today they talk of a man who lost his life to cancer. While he had battled this terrible disease for many years no one knew of it. I was just wondering so many of us cry of things we don't have. There is people who wish they had kept living but either a disease or person took their last breath. How many of you are healthy and living but wish for more money? More materialistic things like car houses even though you have one. I wake up every day and just thank the man above for waking me up. I have been known to be selfish asking for riches, better health, and just things. I look at the news and couldn't help but think why are we so selfish in asking for things? I want to open your eyes and see things I always have to remember to keep myself grounded. A sick baby who just got here fighting for dear life because of an illness. A man who hurt every day because of poison in his body shut his organs down. A family who has lost everything sleeping under a bridge with very little to keep away the cold. So I ask you what do you really need in your life? I want to hit myself when I ask for more because I forget someone doesn't have enough. I wish I had all the money in the world not for me but for others. If I could help just one person who is going through something I just went through. I would be able to stop hunger, homeless, and some sick people. I hear this a lot of people saying what they would do but it takes very little to start helping. If we all just realize that what we have is more than enough. When we realize that someone who has less is making it. I will try not to be a good person but more compassionate toward what the world need and not want. I never wanted to live my life famous have power(president or congress) rich just healthy and free. I love to look at my mistakes in life as lessons and not regrets. How many of you wake up not thankful but always complaining? I wish we all can look in another person's life that is struggling to open our eyes and heart. How would your life be if you had everything you want? Would you drink, eat more, shop more what would change? If I had all the money I ever need I would definitely start with homeless, then the hungry. There are so many people who need homes dues to job loss today. I always wonder if I am the person to start something then others will follow. I love helping people no matter what the need or want is. When I leave this world I want to be remember just like Chadwick Boseman a fighter til the end. He also left a lot of people with a lasting impression of his life work. I wish I could just tell everyone who complains about things but not needs to get over it. I don't want my life to be filled with memories of all the complaining I did. There is so much hatred in the world why use energy on something bad but rather good. I heard we are not born hating another person because of their skin color so why keep doing it? So I ask you again what do you want people to remember you for? I am gonna try to live my life to the fullest even if that means helping one person at a time.
By Lawnda Boston4 years ago in Humans
Chances
I am sitting here thinking about the word chances. I like to believe those who gives chances will be happy. In my distorted world this is so true. That is why I have given people chance after chance even though they didn't deserve it. So lets talk about the word chances just means again. Sometimes it means taking a leap on love, faith or just testing the waters. Also I like to give a person a chance. I love giving people chances if it works for the both of us. I would like to say that this has been so far true. I don't know where it all went wrong from my brain to my heart then my mouth that I actually believe this. I was told by someone wise that if you don't take a chance how are you ever going to fail or succeed. I would say I have follow this rule but I have not thanks to fear. I hear people beg for chance after chance and I think to myself why should people do it if you are going to just let them down? I have given chances to men who always say the same thing. Men say I will never cheat, lie, steal. I come to find out most lie about doing these things. What is in us to give a person a second chance? Do we feel the person is sincere in asking? If we find out they not doesn't the story change? I always will have the belief that if someone in my life like my family ask for a second chance of forgiveness am I right to say OK? Or do I have to treat them no different than anyone who is not family that I know eventually is not sincere? Taking chances or giving chances are something we all have to do in life but which one do you do the most? I take chances a lot rather a hairstyle or clothes to wear. I have also give chances to my children when they try to apologize for something they knew would upset me. I always love to take chances rather a new job or career. I feel like I accomplished something even if what I choose doesn't work out. Sometime people discouraged us from taking chances if it involve health reasons. People may know something you don't know,and when we take a chance when it comes to matter of the heart. I have had a couple friends tell me don't give him another chance he will cheat on you or lie about things like he has in the past. Then I see same friends doing the same thing they told me not to do. I dislike people who ask for a chance from a person who is vulnerable or naive. I sometimes wonder why famous men or women cheat in a marriage/ relationship did they think the other person would give them another chance? How many times should you give a person a chance if they keep damaging your relationship with infidelity? Or taking away trust, security thinking they are safe with someone who they thought would never hurt them? I ask myself is there a limit on how many chances you give someone who you may love, friends with? shoot even family? What is the purpose of giving chances to a cheating spouse? Or anyone who cause harm or hurt in your life? What is the results you hope to find in doing so. I love to receiving chances. So my thing is when is it enough to tell a person no more chances?
By Lawnda Boston4 years ago in Humans
F is not a bad word if its spell Fabulous
I usually like what I see in the mirror because there is no low self esteem in this woman. But when I hear of what people, family and social media this woman is not worthy love because I have more hips and rolls than most women. I want them to know I want love and lord knows I just miss the companionship and just feeling whole. I refuse to settle just because people think I have low self esteem. I hear people talk about the F word all the time but it never really bother me because I change it into a positive word. Like for examples: Fabulous, Free, Fresh, etc because most people don't think of words like these when looking at a woman like me and its cool. I love the way my hair is is free of perms, colors, weave and overall first time in a long time healthy. I also don't usually look or listen to what people say but not with their mouth but with their eyes I get a look of disgust like why is she so F. I love the fact I don't starve myself to get the approval of anyone now if God has a say then maybe I might change some things. I try to eat healthy just so my doctor doesn't have anything to say. I love to wear clothes, I think I am a shopaholic right now just shopping for any and everything. I feel like a kid at Christmas time when a delivery come like what is coming today. I always consider myself a well put together woman when it come to fashion but let my kids, social media and just most smaller size women I am not. I usually don't get much looks from women my size because we both are thinking the same thing when we see something surprisingly that the other is wearing wow you found your size. If I see a woman I don't care what size you are if you look beautiful I have to let my girls know darling you are working that look. They are usually surprise especially the smaller women because they think or thought I was suppose to be jealous um, no I will probably wear the same thing only in my size. If women realize this body shaming is not affecting women of plus size but small women too. I have learn doing research that our beloved Ms Whitney Houston didn't like what she see in the mirror and she was so small and petite but still had a complex on how she looked and wore everyday. Makes you think if someone who is so put together have issue then what is wrong with us having these same issue. I say to all women they should uplift the next woman they see find a way to compliment these women you come in contact with even if its not your style. I love the fact I don't dress according to what the world think I should but what my soul and spirit tell me to wear. I sometime very rare may give myself a pep talk to my self esteem and remind myself I am a Queen no matter if I see a hundred people or no one at all. When women realize that no matter what you do or wear people will either compliment or criticize you. I have just one thing to say to people and this is an old saying I have to come to learn and sometime tell myself to keep doing If you don't have nothing nice to say don't say nothing at. I think people would appreciate it more because who want to walk around with people judging you on your choices for your hair or clothes. This is no different than someone judging you on the color of your skin, color of your eyes shoot even your height. I love myself even if no one else does and this is something I tell myself everyday.
By Lawnda Boston4 years ago in Viva
Baby Momma
Baby Mamma dos and don't Hey ladies my advice is from personal experiences some good, some bad. I have learn these things while dealing with my children father, but also watching other fathers go thru the ringer. I say this not to get anyone hurt or feel obligated to do as I say but to help us all be better educated parents. Ladies here a myth I had to come to grip with if the father doesn't make time to be with you why should your energy be given to him. I have also found out that some fathers not all only pretend to spend time with you to get sex and barely look or talk to the child(ren) and this is not good for you or the child or children in the long run. My children are grown and sometime I still have to talk to their dad(s) just because my children don't want to be disrespectful to him( I taught them no matter how much some one disrespect you don't do it to them) I am here for that. Fathers are human and entitle to error not one parent is perfect far from it but it seem like some try more than others. Here are some things I say let happen it might work for you. Yes let him buy the child(ren) what ever they need no sense in burning your gas to go get it. Yes let him introduce your child(ren) to his other kids they are(half) brothers and sisters. Yes please please tell the child about him but only positive stuff. Let them find out his flaws as they get older don't want to seem like the bad guy or just bitter. Now here is the don't list: Don't let him visit his child(ren) if he is not to take care of his child(ren) or have the best interest of that child(ren). Don't send your child(ren) to him if he is abusive, violent, and overall a bad person or maybe a person who does bad things. Don't ever downplay a father who is trying to show that he wants to spend time with his child(ren). Don't try to use your child(ren) against a good father its a waste of time and energy. Don't ever let your child(ren) see you and the father argue over something that is a waste of energy or time.I never did this don't argue with the dad over him coming to get his child(ren) if he has a girlfriend unless you have learn she is not a good person or treat the child wrong. Never, never keep a child away from a dad who is 100 percent hands on because you two are not together. Ladies if your kid(s) dad want to spend time because he want your kid(s) to see him respecting you let him. This will show your son or daughter on how to treat the opposite sex in a relationship well a good one. Now if the intent is not good doing any of these things don't give him the energy or time because we are grown and we should act so. Don't want this to be a one sided story so gentlemen if this is going on in your world then you should try some of my advice as well. It should work on any parent least I hope it does because one day we all have to grow up and realize its not about the adults but the little people who look at us as mentor, heroes, and just good people. I love that my children love me when I am being mean(as the say) and when I am being loving because I am far from perfect but I not a doormat too. Ladies and Gentlemen this is not advice I am giving to you to see some drama in your life but to help life get a little easier and better between two adults who decide to have child(ren) and be grown to handle their responsibilities. Ladies the whole reason for choosing(or the choice was made for you) to becoming a parent is for your child(ren) to feel love and appreciation from both parents. Parenting is never a one side story but it can be a great experience if parents do or try a little harder on becoming great parents. So parents lets show our children the world is full of crazy people and things but at home it can get better and feel safe as well as love.
By Lawnda Boston4 years ago in Families
