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Women Deserve More Parental Rights than Men

An Unpopular Opinion

By MichPublished 5 years ago 3 min read
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So this may be an unpopular opinion, and if I'm going to be honest, I didn't think this way until after I had a baby and started having to deal with a P.O.S. baby daddy. I believe that (in most cases) mothers deserve more rights/ automatic rights than the father. I know, "Woah, woah what?? What kind of bra burning, man hating, feminist bullshit is this!?"

Okay well calm down, hear my reasoning. It takes two in order to create life. You were both in the room so you should both have to deal with the consequences. Yeah I know, and in a perfect world that's what would happen. But it is way more common that the woman has to raise the baby alone, or with a half-there baby daddy, or with no child support... I could go on. 70 percent of people who are supposed to pay child support (most of which are men) just don't. That's right, 70 percent of children from broken homes go without the support of their other parent.

Child support is so easy. It's barely any money in comparison to the cost of raising a child and still fathers don't pay. We moms go through so many tough things in order to raise our babies. We carry them around for 9 (or so) months, push them out of a very small hole or get cut open and the baby ripped out, go through months of healing and then years—or forever—of a body that is never the same physically or health wise. Then we breastfeed or feel the guilt of formula feeding, don't sleep for years, are constantly on the move, forget to eat, are forced to make a million decisions, and the fathers?... Well, they do very little.

I'm not saying this is all dads, okay? My boyfriend (not biological father of my child) is a wonderful dad and does SO much for our son. But there is a fair amount of fathers who are not around or really just don't care to be a parent. Maybe it's biological, maybe it's because of society, but now women are stuck dealing with these fathers who are not around and the emotional problems that the children have to go through because of this.

Personally my ex was very emotionally abusive and starting on physically abusive as I left. He does tons of drugs ranging from weed to cocaine, he has gone through approximately 12 jobs in 2 years (from getting fired), and spends all his time playing video games. He has never cared for our son, never stayed up or got up with him when he was a newborn, changed a total of three diapers and only when other people were around so it looked like he did something, and complained constantly about the baby crying. Two months after my son was born, I left. Ever since then it has been nothing but issues with my ex. He told me on many occasions how he never wanted my son and wished I got an abortion, yet is taking me to court for custody. He has not seen my son in four months or paid child support.

It is extremely stressful because right now he has rights and can come and take him legally whenever he wants, even though my son has no idea how he is. THIS is why I say mothers deserve automatic rights. My son and I should not live in fear because I had sex with someone and it resulted in a child that the other person does not want. I should not have to fight to be able to do what I am already doing daily. I should also not have to fight to keep a toxic person away from my son.

Yes, there are a lot of wonderful fathers. My father was one. But in many cases, abused women like myself have to allow their children to see their fathers even if it is not in their best interest because of how our society has gone. We took away the one thing we women had and gave it to men anyways.

Maybe you want to call me a crazy feminist. That's fine. I just care about the wellbeing of my son.

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Mich

Hello all! I am a stay at home mom with an autistic toddler. I love plants, animals and being a momma. On top of writing about my experiences!

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