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Wanting a Baby at 19?!

Since I was young, I've always had a huge mother instinct. I therefore knew that my future would consist of children. But my strong need to bare a child is taking over. At only 19 years old, I wish to be pregnant.

By Bella PoirierPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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What is wrong with me? Is it natural to have this need to have a child this young? I am aware that I am not financially ready to afford one, nor ready to sacrifice my body for a little bundle of joy. But I am so impatient to experience being pregnant and motherhood. I have to admit, my generation isn't helping my case. At least 1/2 of my friends are currently pregnant or already have their little ones. I am aware that they were NOT planned and they might not be as happy as Facebook, Instagram or Twitter might make them seem, but following their pregnancies throughout social media makes me envy them. Also, since I work in the early childhood education field, most of my co-workers already have children or are pregnant and are gloating in my face.

I've read every article about the real truths of being pregnant, I know all about what it's like to go into labor and somehow feel ready to conceive. But then I have to remind myself that I am only 19 years old!! I have a full life ahead of me! What am I doing?! I still want to travel, I want to go back to university to become a teacher and I know that it's hard to do when you have a baby. Plus, you want to have a partner that will be there throughout the process and be a good father to your child, so that's why people tend to wait til they are married and stable with their partner so that they know that they're in this together and they are ready for it.

In my case, I have no stability in my life, I haven't been with my boyfriend for that long and I am already thinking about it. It's come to a point where if I'd accidentally get pregnant, I wouldn't be scared or sad, I'd actually be happy and excited. But why? Why am I so eager to start a little family of my own? I have to keep reminding myself that I am still young and have all the time in the world but I can't stop myself from thinking of a mini me wearing a cute onesie when I pass the baby aisle at Walmart.

With a little research, I've found that it's not uncommon, that a lot of people are like me, seeking advice about this early motherly feeling. What I've found is only love and support from young mothers. Comment that I really liked from one of these post was "[...]no one can tell YOU what you truly want and desire[...]". In other words, you don't have a timeline to follow. Even if people tell you to get married first then have children, it doesn't mean that you HAVE to do it. You are in control of your life and you do what you feel is right.

But on the other hand, on that same post, someone else commented: "[...] I was suppose to hike Napal this summer. I was so excited! I've hardly been out of the country, and I just started school up and was so happy about that. Now I'm pregnant, so no Nepal and school will be harder. I'm not blaming the baby, I am very happy and excited, but I do wish I'd done a few more things first.[...]" This speaks more truths that I'd hoped. I relate to this. I plan to go back to school to become a teacher maybe it isn't the best idea to start my family just yet as I might regret not doing certain thing or becoming limited on what I can do after a child is in the picture.

In conclusion, this is certainly not going to stop my baby fever although this has helped me realize that I am not the only one feeling like this and still have support from a whole entire community out there. And I don't have to rush into it. Maybe I won't wait til my 30s but at least til I feel ready and have lived and experienced what I wanted to.

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  • Tameia Robinson9 months ago

    I’m also 19 I’ve always loved kids and knew I always wanted to be a mother..I want a baby so bad that I’ve cried about it like you mentioned I have friends who also have had babies already. Also I work in the NICU and surrounded by cute little babies which makes it harder..Me and my boyfriend have together for 4 years now and Ik I’m young and ik that he doesn’t want a baby right now but it’s all I can think about🥺

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