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The Truth About Being a Mom

Let's cut the crap.

By Mckala Shayne TidmorePublished 6 years ago 5 min read
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They tell you a lot of things when you are pregnant. I mean, A LOT. I could probably write an entire book just based off what other people tell pregnant women, especially young woman. And trust me, as a 20-year-old mother of two under two, I've heard it all! Promise! I can also promise that it is all a giant load of bologna!

So, what are some the things everyone else has to say about starting motherhood? Well, I'll go ahead and tell you some of the lovely things fellow parents have to say about your start to being a mommy! And then I'll just go ahead and tell you why it's all HORSE SHIT!

1. Pregnancy is a beautiful thing.

Ha! No. The THOUGHT of creating life and bringing life into the world is a beautiful thing. Being pregnant is not. It sucks. Bad. You're always sick. You are having all the nutrients being drained from you. You are always exhausted. Your emotions are all out of whack. Your body is being mutilated from the inside out and it's extremely uncomfortable.

2. Being a mom is the best thing that will happen to you!

This can be true, but often it's not. Being a mom is HARD!!! You are no longer your own self. You have to give everything to this tiny human that you've made and, honestly, it takes its toll. That's why we all look like shit most the time. Between being screamed at for a bottle/cup every hour and wiping the shit off another human's ass, do you really think you are gonna have time to do your hair and makeup? Hell no! So as a result, your self esteem goes to shit because you never cater to yourself anymore!

3. I can't wait to babysit!

Yeah....except no one wants to babysit overnight. You know, the one time most of us need a break! God forbid anyone but you lose any sleep over that baby that everyone just loves so much! Then, once that kid becomes a toddler, no one is gonna watch him anymore. They will have a million excuses as to why they "can't," but the bottom line is, no one likes dealing with a toddler. Not even us moms. But YOU have to because she's your child, so no break for mommy dearest.

4. Happy Mother's Day!

See, when your kids are young, you don't really get to be celebrated on Mother's Day. Obviously they aren't buying you a gift. We have already discussed that no one is gonna babysit them for you, so where does that leave you? Doing the same thing on Mother's Day that we do any other day. Mom-ing. But if you're lucky, maybe the hubby (if you have one) will get you some bullshit card and some cheap chocolates! Yay!

5. You're doing such a great job!

You are gonna hear this a lot! And that's not to say that it isn't true, but you will probably never feel like it is. See, here's the thing, the people telling you this, they really have no idea! It starts when you are in labor. The nurses love to tell you how great you are doing! The funny thing is that, half the time they say it, they aren't even touching you! How the hell would they know how great you are doing!? Sure, they are trying to make you feel better, but if you are anything like me, it'll just make you even more angry.

6. You are doing such a great job! Part 2.

Once you have the baby, what do you do? Facebook! Yep, you go post pictures on whichever platform that is your social media drug of choice. You will probably do this for the rest of your kid's life! So people are going to see all those pictures you post with smiling faces and clean clothes. They see all the "I'm so proud of my baby!" posts you make and all the POSITIVE that you plaster all over the internet. That's the thing, though! You're not posting the truth! You don't post about how you didn't sleep any last night, or how you have a month's worth of laundry piled up, or that you haven't eaten a real meal in like two weeks, or that your kid never listens to anything you say, or that you are at your wit's end and about to lose your shit completely! No. No one sees all that. Why would you want them to?! So, in all actuality, how would they know if you are really doing a great job or not? The reality is, they don't.

Here's the bottom line: being a mom sucks! It sucks from that first wave of morning sickness all the way to graduation day! No one likes giving up their life and committing to doing everything for another human. It's never going to be enjoyable, but it is rewarding! These kids are gonna drive you batshit crazy! But watching them learn and grow will give you a sense of pride. You will love this little human so much that you are gonna be willing to put up with all the bullshit that I've been talking about because the love is just that strong! Your heart truly grows so much when you have kids. I guess that's what keeps everyone from telling the truth. Because, at the end of the day, your life has been absolute chaos, you're beyond exhausted, you smell like shit and formula, you probably have a migraine from Hell, BUT.....the kids survived. And more importantly, YOU survived. Honestly, I think when people tell us "You're doing such a great job," they are really just trying to say, "Congratulations, you survived today!"

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About the Creator

Mckala Shayne Tidmore

I am a stay at home Mommy of 2.

I have an amazing husband Named Justin. Writing is my passion and had been for years! Hope you enjoy my stories, poems, and articles.

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