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The Fussy Baby

The First Night Home and Some Many After

By Billie MullinsPublished 5 years ago 3 min read
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We’ve all been there...

Look, I know what you’re thinking. An article about a whiny baby. But I can assure you there are more mothers out there who can relate to this more than you know. A lot of moms out there are scared to talk about their fussy baby. They feel like they're the only ones who are going through this. But that is not the case. There are so many moms who are going through the same exact situation as you or me. There are groups of women supporting each other in their day to day struggles. Don’t feel alone, or like you have no one to talk to. I promise you that there are thousands of mothers out there you could relate to.

My son is five months old currently. I remember the day he was born like yesterday. It was joyous and scary time. The hospital stay was long after receiving an emergency Caesarean section. During our stay, my little baby was so quiet and content. Never made a sound. I thought to myself, wow, I have such a good baby! WRONG, boy, I was wrong. Don’t get me wrong. He’s a good baby now, most the time, other times he's a screaming demon.

So, then it was home to leave and bring our little boy home. The day went well, he was content, napped, ate, and cuddled. It was so nice to be home and relaxing. So, I thought. Then night time came around and our little guy was a fussy, crying, screaming mess. He cried for hours. Nothing soothed him. We tried every trick there was. Swaddling, bouncing, white noise, rocking, shushing, and the list goes on. He just screamed and screamed. It was hard. Nothing was working. How could he be in such destress?

I had no idea what I was doing and I had to care for this tiny little human, who nothing I did pleased him. Being a first-time mom is tricky, add on a fussy baby, and being tired. I thought I was going to lose my mind. Every day it felt like I had to pull myself up by the boot straps just to make through the day. Some days I just a little cry to myself and got over it. Thinking, this must be motherhood and this is just what I have been dealt. That is just what I have to deal with.

I can remember before getting pregnant having met sweet quiet babies who hardly cried. They would sleep the day way, not a worry in the world. But not my baby. Why wasn’t my baby happy and content? Why did this happen to me? Why is he always crying? I always had those questions running through my mind all day, every day. No amount of Google searches or techniques I tried helped me. It felt never ending. I felt it hard to bond with my son because all he did was cry and scream. Nothing is more heartbreaking than feeling like you can't bond with your child. That happened for the first three month or so of his life. Fast forward to today, and I've made it through what seemed to be some of the darkest days of being a new mother.

No one prepares you for that moment. The moment your baby will cry and cry, and nothing you do seems to calm them down. It’s heartbreaking and soul-crushing, to say the least. Just know, this too shall pass. I know in that very moment it feels like it never will. I'm five months deep, and it still feels that way sometimes when he has been fussing for hours. But it will. Slowly it'll get better and better. Take it day by day and treat every small accomplishment as a victory!

So, stay strong mama, it will pass. They're only so little for such a little while.

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