Teach Me How

How do you learn to leave someone in the past while keeping them in the future with you when you know they can't be here, no matter how much you wish they could? What happens when you lose someone? There was nothing that could be done. No way we could save him. He was so young — only a child. Now he's gone.He's not coming back. We wish he would. We wish he could but he's in a better place now. A place where he no longer hurts, his eyes work again, he can speak and be understood. But what happens when a mother never stops grieving and you wish you could be there for her in a way that you don't know how? What happens when she breaks down, the dam breaks loose, and your heart shatters because you feel the same way, yet you could never feel it as much as she? She was his mother, and he her baby. He was a bright child. What happens when she's crying years after he's gone? How do you help her? How do you let her know you will always be there? How do you compare to the love of her child? What do you do when you know if he was here, he'd be the one to comfort her, to know exactly what she needs, to help ease the burden and heal the pain.

What do you do when you see everything changing before your eyes? She is no longer the person she was. What do you do when you know the person she should be crying with is her husband, yet it isn't so? What do you do when she was the person whose love story you hoped and wished yours would match to and her love story changes and you see it was never what you thought? What do you do when you have the love story you always longed for, and she no longer does and now you want hers to match up with yours? How do you help her? How do you teach her to love again? How do you let her know it's okay to renew something old with the man who once was the love of her life? How do you help someone who changed because of severe loss? How can you tell they want your help? How can you show her that she has someone waiting for her at home? How do you let her know the look in his eyes when he looks at her is of love and longing. How does one idly stand by, knowing the need to do something but not knowing what? What does one do when you know they could grieve together and you don't know how to get them to start. What do you do when you still are grieving and so are they, yet their family seems to be drifting apart when they seemed so close and loving? What do you do when you see all this and your view changes and never see anything the same way again? What do you do when you want it all back but you know you never will? How do you let her know you love her, yet you wish she would smarten the hell up and set her priorities straight? Instead of avoiding her man, running to him. Instead of grieving alone, grieving with him. How do you tell her it's okay to grieve and you want to help and you will be there for her?

Only you aren't too sure what to do. How do I teach her to be happy? How can our lives resemble anything of the past if our present is wrapped up in what no longer is? How do I help her to love again? To not fear opening her heart to those she loved? How can I get her to rekindle her marriage with a wonderful man who loves her dearly? Do you know how hard it is to stand by and watch them do this to themselves? To watch what they has slip further and further away? How do I give them love? I want to keep all my loving for I love how much loving I have. But I was meant to share it and I have so much it just flows right over. I want them to have all the same things I have: a whole lot of loving and a love affair with their significant other.

How do I teach a mother and a father who lost a young child to keep him and his memory alive while moving on to a bright, new, love-filled future with both their family and with one another?

Teach me.