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Parents Are Encouraging Children to Be Homosexuals with Their "Conservative" Teachings

Can you see the path that lies in front of this kind of parenting method like I do?

By Jessica ChokPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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I came from a Chinese family where it has always been a stigma to talk about emotional stresses, relationships, and LGBT. There was no personal touch between me and my parents. It was more of a dictatorship or none at all sort of bonding, and I? I consider myself open-minded and a liberal thinker.

I know this topic will be considered as a taboo to many, but I doubt my parents are the only ones practicing such parenting patterns which have contributed to the rise in what they detest with their lives—homosexuals.

Being a daughter, it has always been difficult to have male friends coming over to my house for some chill and chat, just the same way as my female friends would drop by. My parents have had their comments reserved for my male friends, and some of them need not even setting a foot inside the house to receive their merciful share of comments.

While I, being the recipient of these comments most of the time (perhaps my parents dared not speak ill of my friends right into their faces), it has had a toll on me greatly. I felt so sad to hear that my mom disliked my friend or my dad thought of my friends in such a manner, etc.

Giving an example: I once was feeling so ill that I asked my male friend to come into my room to talk to me while I was on my bed. There was nothing else that happened aside from talking about random stuff to alleviate my loneliness and crappiness. My mom called and spoke in a way that was so demeaning. If we changed the scenario, that my friend was a girl, none of these would have happened.

Another example: well before this event, I hitched a ride home from this very same friend. I invited him inside for a chat while waiting for the rush hour to pass, I have received mortifying comments from my mom about this friend of mine (perhaps the only good thing was that she said it after my friend had left so he wouldn’t need to suffer the horror as well).

Alright, if you are thinking that my mom is only against this person, oh no! There was another male friend that gave me flowers on my first day of work to congratulate me. Sometimes when our schedules fit, we would go for breakfast together before work. He would pick me up for work or send me home kind of thing. He has never stepped into my house compound because my mom "did not seem like a very nice person." He reluctantly greeted my mom from the other side of the gate.

If, all the while, none of my friends were of a "different gender," would my parents have cared so much? I doubt they would give a damn. There will always be a reason for things to happen in such a way. Hence I have found the reason for my male friends not setting foot in my house. For I now clearly know and have experienced. They will suffer the same horrific comments that I have received, should they have not been away in time.

I have made awesome girlfriends throughout the years too and I have had them coming over to my place, into my room without a single question. What has become of the direction of my gender development from these lessons? Not to mention my parents have never talked to me about relationships nor supported me when I am in any of it. It became clear as day that these parenting methods gave me a certain direction to follow; a direction that would not make them happy or proud about me.

Imagine this: one day, I bring home a lady and introduce her as my lover?

My parents would surely flip. If that is the case, why are they not treating my friends equally regardless of their gender? If they disagree with the outcome of their teaching, then they should change the way they teach.

With the current bias that has been placed over my male friends, how can I even bring home a lover of a different gender? Lest I be confronted with more deleterious feedbacks.

Can you see the path that lies in front of this kind of parenting method like I do?

Jessica Chok

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