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No Matter How Together We Seem, Mommies Lose Their s#%$ Sometimes, Too

Exploring motherhood with a real mom.

By Laura McCormickPublished 7 years ago 3 min read
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Laura and Andrew McCormick and family at Andrew and Laura's wedding, July 7, 2017

Every morning I wake up at 5am so I can shower and do my hair, have my coffee and make breakfast for my amazing family by 7am. The boys (ages 5 and 10) are at the table dressed, backpacks in hand, for breakfast promptly at 7am. The whole family eats breakfast together, and then it's off to school for the boys as the baby wakes up for her morning feeding and my husband gets ready for his day.

HAHAHA! Let's be real here.

I am a mother of two boys and a 6-week-old infant girl.

I'm lucky if I haven't been up till 6am after the baby waking up at 2am.

I am lucky if I get to shower daily, or poop alone.

Coffee is a way of life, not a drink.

And anyone who says being a mom (stay at home, or otherwise) is easy is lying to you.

So why do we spend so much time trying to make it seem like we have it completely together?

Not one of us has it all together all the time.

Yet we somehow convinced ourselves that we have to make ourselves look like we have it together so that we can measure up to the other moms when, in reality, the only person we should be trying to measure up to is ourselves. So long as our kids are happy, healthy, fed, bathed, and well taken care of, why do we care so much about what other parents think of us? Especially in an era where people have become so PC that they won't open their mouth to verbalize their complaints about us?

I'm not perfect. No mom is. I miss alarms. My kids eat cereal 9 out of 10 breakfasts. Or PB&J. They buy school lunches and they sometimes throw fits in the store. I order out for dinner more than I should, because the husband will be working and I will have had the 3 kids all day long and I won't want to do dishes or cook. I wait to do laundry until the last minute sometimes, and have even had to go out and buy an item of clothing because I waited too long and didn't have the time.

But I make sure I am at each school event from "book and breakfast" to awards ceremonies, from field trips to band concerts.

I read to my kids every chance I get, or let them read to me when they want to.

They cook meals with me and we do eat together.

My kids know I love them, that we love them. And that's what they will remember. That their parents loved them enough to be there for them when it mattered. That they never went hungry. That they always had clothes that fit. That if they had a problem, they could come to us with it. And I think that's the most important part of being a parent. Your children knowing that they can count on you for anything and everything.

So can we please stop with the stereotypical "must be perfect mom" mentality? We're all just trying to do something that came with no instruction manual, that we've had to figure out how to do on our own, in our own way.

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Laura McCormick

Stay at home mom with 3 kids, just trying to do the best I can.

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