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Moms 2018

By Courtney KellerPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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I became a mom in 2018. Before I had my baby, I never realized how hard moms had it. Not only is there a struggle to be the best mom you can be, there are also people surrounding you thinking they should give “good” advice. There are people around you judging every move you make.

Here is a little information about me; I am a single mom. I have one kid, he is almost one. I breastfed and formula fed him until he was one month. Then I switched him to be strictly breastfed. I do not breastfeed in public, but I have done it twice. I do not believe in circumcising unless it’s medically necessary.

I have faced so many people, some were not even moms, trying to tell me how to parent. Believe it or not, this has happened to a lot of moms. If you use the formula you’re a bad mom, because the breast is best. Wrong! If you are using the formula for your baby, good for you! You using formula for your baby is good! Some moms do not have enough breast milk. Some moms just cannot get the hang of it, and that is okay. I was told I had to use formula because my baby had jaundice.

If you breastfeed that is okay too! It gives a great bond between you and your baby. It’s healthy, and easy for when you're on-the-go. I love it. It gives me some time to spend with my baby. Another plus for breastfeeding is if you don’t want someone touching your baby you can use the “I have to put him on the boob,” excuse.

Not only do people judge how you feed the baby, they judge how you put the baby to sleep! They say you should not co-sleep, but they also say it’s sometimes wrong to put the baby in a separate room. Either way, it is okay! A lot of moms co-sleep! A lot of moms do not! You just have to know the dangers, and see what you feel comfortable with!

There are even arguments about the baby’s penis! Should you circumcise or not? It’s up to the mom and dad to decide! You can find real information from doctors, websites, and more. After you do that, then decide. You do not have to circumcise because your aunt told you to do it. You do not have to keep him intact because your friend is pressuring you.

The point of this is everyone will have something to say. Sometimes their opinions will clash with each other. One day you will hear, “You should co-sleep. I did it, and I loved it.” The next day it may be you should NOT co-sleep for even one second. It doesn’t matter what they say. You do what you feel is best. I get bullied because my baby is intact. Is that going to make me change him? NO!

You are already the best mom you can be. This baby is yours (and, of course, your husband's). You decide what is best for the baby. No matter what you choose your baby loves you. Do not let others bring you down, because you did not do it their way. You are the best parent you can be!

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