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Life as a Stay at Home Mom/Housewife

How Life Can Be Different

By Katherine M.Published 6 years ago 5 min read
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Being a stay at home mom/housewife isn't as easy as it seems. Since the fact that you aren't bringing money home to pay bills and other stuff, there are other responsibilities that you have that are different than a mom or wife that actually have a job.

Now, I didn't really plan to become a stay at home mom/housewife, it just sort've happened this way. I had been working as a child care taker for nearly four years and all of a sudden, it had shut down due to not having enough children coming into the daycare. Now, during that time when I found out that they were going to close the daycare, I had also found out that I was pregnant and I was still going to school at the time. My husband, who was in the army at the time wasn't really home just yet even though he would be sooner than expected but I didn't have much of a plan.

I went under the unemployment program and had been staying at home for the past year while I had my baby girl and now living with my in-laws until I am able to get myself a real job so that way I can help my husband with supporting our baby. But, as being a stay at home mom/housewife, you begin to realize the struggle of the responsibilities that are put on your shoulder since the fact that you aren't working a real job.

Being a stay at home mom/housewife, you are put under pressure in a different sense than someone who is bringing home the money for the family. You have to clean the house, cook the meals and take care of your child all at the same time. When you are the one staying home, you are expected to be doing all the house work since your significant other or anyone that you are living with are the ones that are making sure that you guys are able to bring food to the table.

It might seem like it might not be so bad and if you are able to multitask then good for you. But, there are people out there who will definitely feel the pressure of having the responsibility of having to do everything at home when your significant other or whoever you are living with don't expect to do much or anything at all because they are the ones who spend all week working and want the time that they have to relax and not do anything.

Also, it can cause especially your significant other who parents your child with you to not do much because they expect you to do it all. They don't really know what it is that they are supposed to do when it comes to taking care of your child because they aren't around to help take care of them with you or when they are there, they don't really do much because they just assume that you are going to just do it all on your own. Then, when it comes the time to actually take care of your child because you are too sick, they keep coming to you with so many questions because they aren't sure what it is that they need to do since they don't have the experience like you do when it comes to taking care of your child.

I mean, I didn't say that it couldn't be done. It is possible to be a stay at home mom/housewife but it takes a lot of practice. You have to learn as you go since you have never stayed at home before and had always been working, it is definitely a new experience for you. I know that for a fact that I am learning every single day what it is like to be a stay at home mom/housewife. Even though I am not planning to do this for the rest of my life and hopefully I am able to find a job. It is something that can be done and like I had mentioned before, if you are great multitasker, then this will all make it very easy for you.

There is one comedian that her name is Ali Wong. In one of her specials on Netflix, she talks about how all she wants is to be a housewife so she can be at home all day and do whatever it is she wants. It was amusing to watch her discuss about wanting to be a housewife but at the same time, in my head, I definitely thought that there was no way that I could last being a housewife. Being at home for me can be tedious after a while and there is things that you rather do to keep you busy than being at home all day, especially after you had done all your chores and everything else.

As I had mentioned before if you are able to multitask and everything then being a stay at home mom/housewife isn't hard for you. But, if you are someone who definitely struggles to multitask then there is a lot for you to learn from doing it. Now I am not saying that it is bad to be a stay at home mom/housewife, I have been doing it for a year. But, it can be harder than it looks when there are so much responsibilities put on your shoulders. Now, don't get me wrong, it can be a good thing. It gives you the time to spend with your child and give your child the love and care that he/she needs. I spend all my time with my baby girl and I do love it. She is my absolute everything and I will love her for the rest of my life.

Being able to stay at home can give a mom a chance to give her child all the love in the world and create that bond that your child will have with no one else but you. Also it will give yourself the opportunity to learn, especially if you are a new mom and with your first child like I am, to learn the patience to have with another human being who relies on you for everything. It might sound like it can be frustrating, but I can tell you right now, it will all be worth it in the end.

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Katherine M.

I love to write, I have many stories that are in progress, even though I haven't really finished anything of them yet.

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