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How to Deal with Overprotective Parents

Why is overprotection so bad?

Parents always have been involved in the education of their offspring, but now they have not. Paradoxically children are increasingly depressed and get tired. The reason for their depression is an emotional overflow of parents, untenable pressure within the family.

Overprotective parents—what affects children?

"My daughter is angry and tired, but I feel like I give her everything. I do not understand her. We have planned many activities this year, but she looks depressed, why? "

This kind of testimonial, we read dozens and dozens on forums and social networks. Parents, who express their concern about their offspring’s behavior, have the impression to fill. Anxious mothers, who are about to explode because they don't understand the situation at all.

In what funny period do we live? Today's parents are under pressure from society forcing their children to succeed in all areas. They feel obliged to be the best in their job and want to be exemplary parents. The fear of doing wrong or of being judged by others makes them paralyzed. Unconsciously, they project their hopes for success on their children all. Nevertheless, they are running out of time. Therefore, gnawed by the guilt of not seeing their offspring enough, they strive to respond and anticipate their slightest impulses and whims. Miscalculation…

Children Who Do Not Have Time to Breathe

Liliane Holstein has been observing this phenomenon for many years in her psychoanalysis practice. Today's parents are overwhelmed. They think they do well by meeting all the supposed needs of their children, but in reality, they are wrong. By overprotecting their children, they weaken them more than anything else does. For the psychoanalyst, children no longer have the time to dream about what could please them, because their desires immediately granted and sometimes even outpaced. "When someone does everything for you, you are not ready to face failure or even the simple difficulty," says the specialist. Children do not know that it is possible to fail and find themselves lost.

They must be prepared from an early age. The toddler who throws an object on the floor tests the adult. He must understand that the parent will not always be there to pick up the thing that he throws away. The more the child is used to managing frustrations, the more he or she becomes independent. One cannot imagine the toddler pleasure when he succeeds in doing something on his own. On the contrary, by assisting him, projecting on him his desires and ambitions, you are oppressing him. Just as it is useless to over-stimulate or to seek how to develop his skills by imposing a frantic pace with incessant activities.

Anxiety, depression, anger ... symptoms of discomfort

"I'm amazed how tired children are," says Liliane Holstein. The message they are sending out is that they cannot take it anymore. They do not understand this rhythm imposed on them and this parental gaze perpetually focused on them. The problem is that most of the time parents think what their children have to do everything or they have to occupy every minute of their schedule with education or work.

We should ask ourselves a simple question, "When?" In general, the child himself know the answer but their parents don't. To evacuate his unease, he forced into extreme behavior (he or she start fighting with parents and society). He sends out a symbolic cry of warning while being depressed, jaded from tyrannical parents. In another way, he starts to feel pain, stomachaches, skin problems, breathing, and difficulty falling asleep.

Parents have the keys to breaking the deadlock.

In these situations, it becomes urgent to react fast and right—how to find the right balance, how to protect your baby and show your love without oppressing him and how to help him to become independent. Parents have the power to solve a large number of psychological dysfunctions in their children if they become aware of the existence of a problem. When they consult, they often quickly understand the problem they pose to their family. A small child needs above all tenderness, essential to its balance. Nevertheless, we must also leave him space and the time necessary for him to dream and express his creativity.

About Author:

I am Matthew Evans and I am a business coach, ruby fortune review writer and blogger. I want to show people how beautiful and interesting our planet is. In addition, I really like to read new information about psychology. I started to learn psychology and relationship problems when I was 18-years-old. I hope that my knowledge will help me to understand people and make their lives better. 

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