"If you get a septum ring, you'll look like a bull!" (I now have a septum ring).
"If you get piercings, you'll never get a job!" (I now have six piercings, five of them on my face or ears where it's visible, and a job).
"It's just a phase!" "No facial piercings!" "They're just gross!" are all phrases that most teens with strict(ish) parents have heard. I've heard them, too, yet I am now at the point where I'm getting one new piercing a month on average. How did I do it, and what is my advice? Here are my tips for getting your parents to allow you to get piercings—hopefully they will work for you, too!
1: Get on their good side!
It goes without saying that not every kid has exams coming up to use to their advantage, so find something else that you can use to persuade your parents—not a small thing, like cleaning your room once or doing the family shopping just once—but a big thing. To put it into perspective, I had an entire year of daily revising to do and about 16 exams to pass, so this was a long journey just to get my first piercing. If you have any bad habits that your parents have picked up on, take time in changing yourself. The more effort you make to change for the better and prove you really want a piercing, the more effective it will be. For example, if you have a dirty room, keep it clean for at least a few months. If you don't do homework, make sure your parents see you doing it straight after school with as much effort as possible. Make it clear you're doing this to get something out of it in the end. If your parents don't give you the offer of "do this and you can have a piercing," bring it up yourself.
If you've kept up to your end of the deal for a long amount of time, such as my amount revision in a year, then there's a good chance of them keeping to their end of the deal, too.
2: Non-Visible Piercings
My parents' main argument always was, "you'll never get a job with so many piercings." So show them what piercings that you can get that won't leave visible scarring, or that can be hidden when needed!
For example, a smiley piercing can only be seen when you smile. If you have a small ring, it won't be seen even then. A frowny is another piercing inside your mouth, that generally cannot be seen. Obviously, this jewelry will go unnoticed in job interviews. No interviewer will ever ask to look inside your mouth, unless you're applying to be some sort of weird model who has photos taken of the inside of their mouth, specifically. And let's face it, you're probably not.
Similarly, a septum piercing can be made invisible simply by flipping it upside down or putting a retainer in. Inside your nose, the scarring will be invisible, too, and no interviewer ever needs to know that you have it. Just flip it upside down for work, and turn it back when you get home!
Navel, genital, nipple and most dermal piercings are also invisible if you wear a full uniform to work. But if your parents don't like the idea of any kind of piercing, maybe it's not a good idea to jump straight to "can I get my genitals pierced?" first.
Ear piercings are pretty visible, but if you have long hair that is never worn up, they can stay relatively hidden.
So next time your parents hit you with the "you won't get a job" cliché, you can say, "well actually, I can get this piercing and the interviewer will never even know I have it!"
Alternatively, you could just go ahead and get a secret piercing anyway, because it's not only job interviewers who are immune to seeing them, but people in general.
3: 'I don't like the look of them!'
Show them examples of piercings that look classy—don't show them standard or extreme, show them pretty jewelry, photos that look girly with a cute filter on top, a high quality photo of someone conventionally attractive modeling the piercing that you'd like. Really make an effort to erase any bad imagery they have in their head. If they think piercings are unladylike, for example, find a photo of the girliest girl wearing your choice of piercing with the girliest jewelry, wearing the girliest clothes, with the girliest filter, everything. A girl who is the epitome of ladylike, who also has a piercing.
Whatever your parents don't like, find a picture of the exact opposite to prove them wrong.
Standard bars that you get when first pierced are pretty ugly, and your parents won't like the look of them. So pretend to agree! "Ew no, I don't like them ugly bars either. I'll only get pretty jewelry like this." In the end, it doesn't really matter if you have to tell a little lie to persuade them—you're not going to get super extravagant jewelry when it's first pierced anyway, and what style you go for after it's healed is up to you. The piercing is already done, after all, and you don't need to convince them it can be classy once it's done, if classy isn't for you.
Just try not to show them anything with a large gauge, or someone "scary looking" or someone with extreme body mods, like this...
4: Start Small and Go Big
For example, a smiley is a piercing that my parents found seriously gross. But after several rather tame ear and navel piercings, the less crazy it seemed when I came home with my frenulum pierced one day.
It's basically getting them to accept your style slowly, and it will be less of a shock when you get something considered "extreme" like a facial piercing or stretched ears. Having multiple smaller piercings will also let your parents see that you can have many piercings and still look presentable, and also that you're good at taking care of them, so they should be more open to the idea of you getting more. It also shows your good taste in jewelry when you have a large number of piercings and still don't look like "a freaky mess," so they will trust your judgement when you want to keep getting more.
But, there's an alternative approach...
5: Start Big, then Go Small
Starting with basic piercings then slowly getting to the more extreme side of things is a way of letting your parents slowly get into your style without seeing it as crazy as they used to see it. Exposure to more conventional piercings on you takes away the "oomph" when you finally get something bizarre.
But if you don't have the patience for this technique, and what you do have instead is a huge set of balls—just go straight for the kill. Get the most extreme piercing you want! Whether "extreme" to you means something with a large gauge, or a facial piercing, or a dermal piercing, just go for it!
Your parents will hate it, but if you get the craziest thing you can think of, they're no longer going to be phased by anything else that you might want pierced.
I mean, if you come home with a piercing that your parents really hate, are they going to care when one day you consider getting a little baby ear piercing? Probably not.
Obviously this example is extreme, but think about it—they really won't feel the need to stop you getting a lobe piercing if you have a split tongue and an implant in your head.
1) Do something to deserve a piercing—get on your parents' good side. Show them what you can achieve!
2) Show them that not all piercings are bold. Make sure they know they can be hidden, not all of them leave visible scarring, and that employers don't have to see them!
3) Show them gorgeous examples of what you want, even if this isn't the look you go for once you're actually pierced!
4) Slowly go from tame piercings to the more extreme. Exposure to multiple mainstream piercings will make it less shocking when you want something a little different!
5) Or just go the opposite direction, from extreme to tame—a crazy piercing will make it literally unnoticeable when you want something basic!
These were my five tips on getting your parents to allow you piercings! It worked for me, and hopefully you, too! Happy piercing!