Hope You Can Live With Yourself

Sometimes you just have to cut people out of your lives and move on. I have tried with all of my might to remain considerate and polite throughout the handling of my husband's estate.

Now it seems that the gloves are off, and they were taken off by my brother-in-law. The one thing I did not want to see is all of the bad blood that has now been spilled between family members.

And over what? A $250,000 estate left to be divided between three parties. Two of the three wants dad's house sold and really could use the money from the sale to better their lives now.

However, the one who is the executor has different plans. He will not take into consideration what anyone else involved wants, or needs, only what he wants to do for himself.

He claims Dad wanted to keep the house in the family. Mind you, nowhere in the will and trust does it say those words. It only says how to disperse the funds in what shares to the heirs.

So, the brother-in-law who wants to keep the house "in the family" wants to "keep it in the family" with just his family! He has moved his daughter into the home to rent and claims it will be "several years" before he wants to think about doing anything with the house.

Since this didn't go over well with the rest of us we hired our own lawyer to try and reach a compromise. So far, this has not happened and looks as if it will have to go before the probate judge to hopefully come to a mutual agreement among the family.

That being said, after all the slanderous and gossiping talk that has been going on only from brother-in-law's family I have had enough. I just want to move from this house, settle things in court if need be, and move on with my life.

I have no plans of ever really having anything to do with him and his family ever again. I will be polite at holiday functions if they are there, but that is it. The bond is severed on my part anyway.

I have no need for those type of people in my life, family or not. I will not surround myself with such negative, and manipulative people, who have no problem doing their family dirty. I guess I really should have never been surprised by this from him. After all, he did give up custody of his first-born son because his new wife didn't want anything to do with him. That and she did not want him to pay out the whopping 25 dollars a week in child support to take care of him.

It really amazes me the things that some people will do in life and never look back on, but instead go around with their noses in the air like they are so much better than everyone else. In the end, I guess I am saddest about how things have gone down now because the deceased parents would and most likely are heart absolutely heartsick with what their children have become over something that was meant to be left as a final gift to their kids.

Man, I really need to cleanse my Karma from all of this. It is now what it is and I am just going to try to be the best person I can be regardless. I will let his karma handle his affairs from here.

After all, they say Karma is a mirror, and I hope when he and his family look into that mirror they see exactly what they deserve to see.