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Dealing with a Toddler

While There’s One in the Oven

By Jessica HongPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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If you’ve ever had to take care of a toddler, you know it can have its ups and it’s multiple downs. It’s ups mostly consisting of just the fact that it is your precious child and the occasional “I love you’s” and “you’re my best friend, mommy” moments. But the downs can be, to say the least, frustrating.

For example, when you’re little angel says they are hungry and so you proceed to make them one of their favorite meals/snacks and then say to your child “okay sweetie, come eat” and that precious little angel says to you, wait for it...“I’m not hungry,” and you just about pull out all your hair in the frustration that is your toddler. How about when you tell your toddler to do something a million times and they somehow take an hour to do it, or the thousands of questions your child has to ask right before bedtime.

So yes, toddlers can be a challenge, but if you’ve ever been pregnant, you'll understand how difficult it is to take care of your grumpy, pregnant self on top of the little human being you made before. The whole, “Do not lift over 10lbs rule?” Forget about it. There will come a time during your pregnancy that you will have to drag that screaming toddler out of a store or carry him or her to their bed after a long car ride. So don’t feel bad for having to lift more than you should during your pregnancy, just try your best to rest and have some help when it’s needed.

Currently, I’m 34 weeks pregnant with our second boy, and it’s very difficult. I know having a second child is going to be a challenge, but at least I’ll have a little more energy than I do now. When I was pregnant the first time around, it was all about me. I did yoga, slept most of the day, took long baths (alone) and was able to focus on me and my precious growing bump. Having a toddler with you 24/7, you definitely can’t do those things. It’s difficult when you feel as though you will never get sleep again, because once this baby comes out, it’s back to those sleepless, crying nights you had with your first one. Thank god I have my three year old potty trained now because I’m not sure what I would do with having to change two sets of diapers. For those of you out there who do that already, God bless you and more power to ya.

My husband works all day and so when he gets home, he wants to rest and put his feet up and relax, understandable, right? Yes of course..except when they want to spend time with you, they say to sit down and relax with them, maybe watch a movie, but your job isn’t over until the tiny terror is asleep. So he waits, and waits for you to do that and when it’s finally done, you’re way too tired to keep your eyes open for a two hour movie. Go to sleep, wake up, repeat. So keeping your married life going and raising a toddler while you’re pregnant (or not for that matter), is difficult.

All I can say is you have to hang in there with your little one and your older man child and just get through the pregnancy so you can enjoy the ups of having a little baby in your household again. It may not seem like you’ll have a lot of ups, but trust me, it’s all worth it in the end. I look forward to having my two boys running around, playing bad guy and good guy and super heroes and cars, and becoming best friends as I hope they will. I did want a girl at first, but I’ve embraced the “mom of boys” lifestyle I will now be having and will definitely be letting you all know what it’s like to be surrounded by males. Thanks for reading everyone!

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Jessica Hong

I’m a married, stay-at-home mom, with another one on the way, just trying to enjoy life and keep my cool ❤️

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