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By Ilike2ramblesPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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Pain is a natural process and inevitable. One can not prevent being hurt. There are times in one's life some of us are subjected to harsh realities. Some of us are very unfortunate and are not born in the beautiful world of two parents, wealth, or gifted with the same opportunities as others. That’s not to say opportunities are not there for the less unfortunate because that is not the case. There are just several detours to get there first. Detours you ask? Let me explain.

Take one child, place them in a home with a mom and dad, surrounded by fancy things. You sign your child up in educating activities, you put the child in programs to advance their artistic skills, and at 6 PM on the dot your child will eat dinner around a wooden table and one will smile, asking the standard. “How was your day?” The child is given fancy clothing, a social network of other kids from prestigious families. One gives the child luxurious gifts for Christmas, and for their birthday. You communicate with said child, and discuss how things should be handled properly. You discuss behavior, consequences, and use yourself as a prime example to teach what is expected. The child is wired already by the age of six. That life is full of open doors, things are to be celebrated with people who love and care about you. The child is already set up with a stable environment one built on love, kindness, understanding, and growth. The child has already determined how to obtain all goals, and will not forget how to use these tools, not to say that all children will become successful or that they will use these tools to their advantage in life, but the fact of the matter is, they are there in the back of this child's brain, it has already been imprinted on them. The child is given opportunities because the family did one thing. They provided the child with stability. They had structure, and they were supportive, interested and a part of the child's process to being able to obtain things easily. The child was taught consistency and was given tools to utilize time. These are methods to having a successful life. The child's environment was his model, and his parents nurturing is the reason for his mental stamina to succeed because this is their norm, and the child is taught that anything other than this belief system in life is below one's self.

Now take the same child and instead of a mom and dad you put them in a home with a mom and a dad who don’t want anything to do with the child. It’s a whole new child. Let's assume the mother is abusive and mentally unstable. The methods of conditioning is one of a harsh, unstable, and impulsive environment. The child is not encouraged, hugged or spoken to with respect, or with compassion. The child is not told it is loved, and no one is proud. The child lives in constant fear because the parents are setting the environmental conditioning of a mental belief system that one should be fearful of others, people are unkind, unloving, and not to be trusted. This is the path to failure and unhappiness.

There are several different environments a child can be raised in. They all have the power to create, poor, rich, happy, sad, nice, mean and unsuccessful, successful people. It’s just harder for the less unfortunate only because of the mental belief system we were taught. The child given all the opportunities in the world knows the door is never locked it’s just closed for praying. The child given fear instead of love believes all doors are locked because secrets and evil things hide behind doors.

BY ILIKE2RAMBLES

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