How does someone destroy you so thoroughly and boldly and not care about the disaster left?
When you are raising your children, teach them morals, values, and worth. Teach them to be respectable, caring, and loving. Teach them to respect themselves and others. Teach them about our world and the fact that they need to be concerned about bringing happy energy and help to others with no expectations.
If you teach your children to be selfish and they are entitled; if you teach your children that abuse is a way of life; if you break their spirits when they are in their formative years with violence, drugs, and self absorption; if you teach them how to be cons; if you manipulate them; if you lead by example with manipulation, mental, and emotional abuse, you then teach them how to be victims. If you teach them how to lie, they will remain victims of the world you created for them when they were children.
This will produce a society of victims and they will spend their lives searching for something to fill the void you created for them in their formative years. They will also spread their sickness with every life they touch. They will never find peace. The only peace they will experience is through numbing themselves with drugs and alcohol. They will blame everyone for their problems and they will be unable to form true healthy attachments to people. They will always be attracted to the hell they lived as children with you because that is what seems normal. They find solace in the normalcy. You are creating your child's destiny.
People who as adults leave destruction in the wake of their path. People who are so broken they are unable to care about anyone but themselves. People who seek others not for companionship but as a stepping stool to further their agenda in life. Broken people. Damaged people. Violent people. People unable to see the light that is this world. Unable to see the benefit in giving. People unable to see the payoff in honesty. People unable to see the joy in giving freely without anything in return. People who are also destroying spirits one child at a time. Raising people just like them, who grow up to further spread depravity and darkness. Shallow people who lack the tools that good parenting provides to be a positive force in this world.
As a woman on the other end of a destiny created many years ago, it is heartbreaking. But even more heartbreaking is watching a person you love so lost in the world they will never be happy or content, knowing that even if they are able to pull out of the depths of depravity, you can never be a part of their life again. Only because it is not fair to you or your children to carry the weight they are destined to carry and it is not your destiny.
If you want to see change in your life, if you want to see change in this world, the change starts with you. Stop judging others when your side of the street is far from clean. Stop focusing on drugs and alcohol. Instead, focus on establishing healthy relationships with your children. Stop teaching your children intolerance as you are leading by example. Accept people for who they are and where they are at in life. Start focusing on you and how you can better yourself and how you can bring a positive addition to this chaotic world we live in. Break the cycle of abuse. Break the cycle of addiction. Do it for you. Do it for your children. Do it for the world.