Beginning of Parenthood

Where do we begin? Being 19 is already a stressful situation in itself, but finding out that you’re becoming a father of two can make everything flip upside down in ways you’d never expect. Most young men would let it tear them down I’ve seen some men stronger than the world in mind but with two babies as your responsibility you become afraid of the world. The feeling of being the care taker and provider of small and beautiful creations is a beautiful feeling. It’s honestly a feeling of pleasure, joy, and worry. The worrying isn’t caused by the children themselves but the worldly harm that can occur to the babies. Never in my life have I felt a weakness but I can tell already they have weakened my heart from the coldness of the world. Kids do so many great things and only have I scratched the surface of these feelings.

Months down the road from the day I became a father of two, nearing the delivery day, it tends to become a odd feeling. You feel your children kick inside the womb and feel a relief of joy but with that comes the worry. I’ve learned with this experience that you have to learn to be relaxed with it. This is not a situation you can go into stressed daily about. That’s what causes high tensions and fierce arguments between the parents. Instead I advise you maintain a calm and respectful state of joy but hold the worrisome conversations. Don’t let the worries ruin a relationship. Use the worries to bring one another closer in heart and mind. Use this time to create a household in which children can grow and have a happy home. Don’t ruin a chance of happiness by causing yourself to stress. Stress is a problem that can be fixed from the beginning. Coming from a broken home you learn that over the years. I’ve yet to learn everything about this but I’m slowly opening new pages every day and will further share my soon to come knowledge as the days pass on.

Now as we begin to enter into the last few days before our gift from god arrives, it can be a test of character. You never know what to expect when they come. This is the time you figure out your worry and your stress and begin to eagerly solve them. You and your partner don’t need what you have on your mind bothering you with a beautiful moment approaching. Personally the last thing I want to be doing is stressing the first moment I hold my baby girls. I don’t want their first look into the world to be the sight of a father stressing. I want it to be the look of a loving and caring father and I know you want the same. You have 24 hours in a day to talk and work through things and become a better person and parent in this course of action. All you can do is just learn from trial and error. Nothing in this time will be perfect and never will be but as parents our job isn’t to be perfect but to give our children the best life possible.

Looking at the things and problems my parents have dealt with in life showed me that no matter the problems, stressing about it will help not a thing. It causes more problems than what was handed to you. Once said and done, communication and relaxing is the key to becoming a great and unstressed parent.