Arranged Marriage

Sooo here it goes... Let me give you a glimpse of what it's like to have an arranged marriage... Yes, you read right arrange marriage... Yes, it happens even today in the 21st century.

It's really not as bad as it sounds. I mean, okay, it's not as romantic or exciting one may think as having a love marriage, but is that true? And if it is to what extent? Is arranged marriage like a blind marriage?

Definitely not... before I tell you about my story I feel like I need to tell you that it's not so arranged after all... So I met my husband through family. Yeah, he was chosen by them for me to meet but to meet him again was my choice and mine alone... So after our first meeting is it really still arranged? I guess it's a choice I made all by myself, I liked what I saw and what I heard...

We met with family the first time and then exchanged numbers and got to know each other a little more, and then met several more times. It was more like being introduced to each other than an arranged marriage. We got to decide whether we wanted to meet again so it really didn't seem like such a bad idea after all.

So after a few months of knowing each other, we decided we were ready to get married, this may seem too soon for some but I guess we kind of knew it was the right thing for us to do. I mean different things work for different people, and this is what we thought would work for us. Our parents obviously loved the idea and you may not be surprised to read that we were also over and above the moon, weirdly, madly in love.

I personally don't think you can know what someone is like unless you are living with them and are involved in their life actively. It's not that we didn't have our differences but we also had a lot we agreed on. He was ready from day one to marry me, he says it was love at first sight but I'm a more of a practical person. Yeah, I found him cute and I enjoyed his company, but I had my doubts.

As for my title, love me a little every day, that's basically what he did. It was his small gestures that really made me fall in love. He would call me early in the morning and late at night or any time during the day just to find out how I was doing, and nothing cheesy, just a "Hey how are you? How's your day going?" Or he would bring me a rose when he knew I wasn't feeling too well and what more does a girl want really? A handsome guy, whose gentle but manly, kind but strong, sweet but tough, I could go on forever 😍. Him loving me a little everyday really did the trick. I'm not saying that works for everyone but for me it did it all just felt right and perfect.

Two years later we're married, have a daughter, and are expecting another baby in January...am I happy? If you haven't already gathered, I'm more than just happy. I'm content and madly in love. I know people say it over and over again but looks really do fade, and personality lasts a lifetime. But I don't know if it was just me but it's like the closer I got to him the more handsome he became, even now I think he'ss the most handsome guy to ever walk into my life never to leave again!

But that doesn't mean that every arranged marriage is like that, but then not every love marriage is the same either, right? I think we need to stop being so judgmental, we need to take a seat and just enjoy life for what it is. Take a risk, do something different, experiment, and explore. And most importantly, we need to find little things every day that make us happy. Get yourself a man that can make you smile by just being himself. So what's a perfect marriage? Love or arranged? I leave you to decide, all I want to say is whatever it is that makes you happy, grab it with both hands and don't let it go. Don't listen to all these quotes saying, 'Oh, if he was really yours, he'll come back.' No, this is life, we don't always get a second chance, so play it right the first time. Love or arranged, just be happy. Live. Love. Laugh ❤