10 Signs Your Mother-In-Law Hates You

Ah yes... mother-in-laws. You either have a mother-in-law that loves you dearly, or a mother-in-law that hates your guts. There are even times when your mother-in-law hates you for no apparent reason. Even though you didn't particularly do anything wrong to cause your MIL to hate you, there are certainly reasons why she does. You probably didn't do anything wrong... you're just you. And that's what she doesn't like.

Even though your partner loves you endlessly, it's unfortunate that your mother-in-law doesn't. Mother-in-laws are supposed to be like a caring mother to you. Since you love their child and will do nearly anything for them, your MIL should definitely appreciate this. But that's not the case for some people dealing with monstrous mother-in-laws. If you know for sure that you did absolutely nothing to your MIL, but sense that she doesn't like you at all, check out these signs your mother-in-law hates you. If you can relate to two or more of these reason... than I'm sorry, but your MIL probably loathes you.

She "forgets" to include you in family gathers.

If your mother-in-law calls everyone over to her house for dinner, your partner's sisters, brothers, uncles, aunts, cousins, and your partner, but excludes you, something's up. If your mother-in-law loved you, she would, without a doubt, want you over, too. But since she called literally the entire family but you, she doesn't want to see your face in her house for dinner.

She also doesn't want you eating the food she'll be making for everyone. I know, it's definitely upsetting to catch on, but it's one of the signs she doesn't like you. Hey, if you know she's a bad cooker, than this is a plus for you, because you won't have to eat it!

She doesn't seem interested in your career and hobbies.

She asks you a single question, "What's your job?," and if she starts to doze off, possibly yawning while you're explaining, then it's clear she doesn't care about your profession. This also means she has zero interest in what your hobbies are, and life overall. She only asked because she believed that she had to. A caring mother-in-law is usually engaged in your work, your passions, hobbies, and everything else that makes you, you.

If she's literally yawning by the first sentences that comes out of your mouth or is doing something else while you're talking about yourself, save your breath. It looks like she couldn't care less and it's best if you just keep your mouth shut and not waste your words. This is definitely among the signs your mother-in-law hates you.

She doesn't have any photos of you and your partner hanging anywhere in her house.

Your MIL's house is coated with pictures of your partner's sister's partner, and your partner's brother's partner, but where's you and your partner? There are tons of photos of just your partner with their parents or solo... but none with you. And you know that your partner gave their mother photos of the two of you together to hang, but they're no where to be found.

I bet those photos of the two of you are probably in a box somewhere deep in clutter or possibly in the trash. If there's absolutely no photos of you and your partner in your mother-in-law's house, then that's certainly one of the signs your mother-in-law hates you.

She literally ignores you every time.

Among the obvious signs your mother-in-law hates you, if you're talking to her and she just ignores you... that's a major sign. If your MIL loved you, she would definitely give you her ears to anything you have to say. No matter what it's about, she's willing to listen to anything.

But if she's actually walking away from your conversation mid-sentence, then that doesn't seem good. And if there are other ways that she's totally ignoring everything that you're saying, like she's on her phone while you're talking, she's talking to someone else, she's watching TV, basically anything else that would show that she's utterly not listening to you, then you shouldn't waste your time talking to her.

She tries to set your partner up with someone else.

This is one of the fuckin' worst signs that anyone can possibly come across, and it actually has happened to so many people out there. There are pesky mother-in-laws who have the audacity to try and set your partner up with someone else, just to get you out of the picture. I know, it's seriously messed up.

If you're getting the sense that your MIL is actually attempting this, talk to your partner about it. This is extremely rude in so many ways, and you definitely don't deserve to go through this if you've done absolutely nothing wrong to your partner or your mother-in-law.

She boasts about your partner's exes.

From the signs your mother-in-law hates you, this sign is almost as bad as the previous one—but it's still very disrespectful. Your mother-in-law will bring up your partner's exes out of the blue in attempt to mainly piss you off and hope that your partner will somehow get back with an ex.

She'll boast and boast about your partner's exes, mentioning how amazing they were to your partner, what great personalities they had, and overall the perfect other half for your partner. It's best if you ignore her at this point, but if it starts to become consistent, talking to her surely won't solve it, but talk about it to your partner if your partner hasn't said anything to their mother yet.

She buys you gifts the will help your "flaws."

Around your birthday or any other holiday, your mother-in-law gives you a very thoughtful gift. And as in thoughtful I mean gifts that will help your "flaws." Maybe she's even the type to just give you a gift on your birthday and that's it.

But every nasty MIL searches for flaws on you and will immediately point them out. And as for gift giving, she'll offer you a gift that will help your acne, something to get rid of your back hair, or a present for any other "flaw." Try not to be insulted when she gives this to you. In fact, turn the tables around and be extremely happy with your gift. If you're lucky, this will throw her off.

She looks past your accomplishments.

Your MIL looking right past your accomplishments is among the signs your mother-in-law hates you. If you've been promoted at work, finally received that bonus, or anything else that's worth being congratulated over, and she doesn't give an absolute shit... she's not entirely interested. You can even find the cure to cancer or become the next president of the United States and she'll still look past your accomplishments.

What really matters is that you're stepping up your game in life and making your dreams into a reality. You shouldn't let someone like your MIL bring you down. Honestly, just seeing your partner and those you love being very proud of you should be enough.

She challenges you on almost everything.

Your mother-in-law is always ready to pick a fight with you. It doesn't even matter what it's about, it can be the stupidest thing, and she'll make a comment to start a ferocious argument. You can literally say that pizza tastes great with pepperoni, but she'll come out of no where and say that pizza with olives is better.

Her main priority in this position is to just bring you down. She wants to show you that you're wrong in so many ways, and you shouldn't have to deal with this. You can either agree with her just to get her to shut up, or ignore her, which can be more painful to her since you're not responding. Either way, she's acting like a kid.

She tends to insult your ethnic heritage.

Lastly from the signs your mother-in-law hates you, probably the most disrespectful of them all, is her completely insulting your ethnic heritage. If you're married to someone with a totally different background, and your mother-in-law will bring up how your "flaws" are linked to your culture... that's messed up. She'll mention stereotypes that are totally false just to show that you don't belong in her family.

Since this is just a sign that your MIL doesn't like you, it's best if you ignore her or talk to your partner about it. You know whatever she says isn't true—let it go.

Remember, if your mother-in-law is a total asshole to you, this shouldn't stop you from loving her child. What matters is that you're with your partner and not their mother. You love your partner and not their mother—that's all it matters. No irritating in-law is worth separating yourself from the one you love.