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Being a Young Dad

The Good and the Bad

By Luke fleetwoodPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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Hello. If you're reading this then you're either going to become a dad or already are one. So let me tell you about me and how I do it.

I am a dad and became one at the age of 21. I work full time as a gas/AGA engineer and have a fiancé that I have been with for four years now. We have two kids, one who is two (nearly three) and another who is one in a few weeks. We live in a large (ish) flat in England. Times are hard and money is tight, especially when you're the only income. But as long as you're sensible, I guess it's OK!

Firstly, I am going to start of with the negatives because let's face it, you don't want to end reading on them. Being a dad is amazing, but please note there are very difficult times ahead. Babies, toddlers, etc., can be very difficult to look after. For instance, lack of sleep (if you're like me and love your sleep, that's not going to happen anymore). They seem to wake up all the time in the night, sometimes for no particular reason. However, all babies are different. Yours might be little angels and sleep all the way through. If so, then you're very lucky. Then you have the cost. I can safely say they drain your piggy bank more then your partner does (haha). You've got milk to buy (if you're bottle feeding), constant clothes as they grow far too quick (got a friend with a baby? Perfect, buy all theirs in bulk. It will save you a ton of money). Then if you're at the stage of terrible twos, then you're in for a fun ride. Don't be fooled if you think a new tantrum when they get to two is it. I've never met a two-year-old with more sass than mine. Sometimes it is hilarious. The hard part is not to laugh sometimes, but then there are obviously times when you have to sit them out 24/7 because the demons in them decide to come out. You also have things like their health. My little boy was in and out of being ill for nearly the first nine months. It didn't help with the same doctor twice not spotting the problem. But hey-ho, it's all sorted now, and the little man is fit and strong. I think that's enough of that part. Now let's move onto the better parts.

Now the good bits. All the things I've stated previously are not enough to make you wish you never had them in the first place. It's true what they say; it is love at first sight for your children, and they are the best things to happen to you. My children can be seriously funny sometimes which has me and my partner in stitches. I mean, the lack of sleep, etc., will change eventually. Who needs sleep anyways? The reason we had children young is because when they're old enough to do certain things, we want to be there to do it with them. I don't like the idea of being an older person and having to watch from the sidelines because you're a bit rusty to do certain things. I can't actually wait till they are old enough so we can go do things like play football and go to adventure parks. Have full on adult conversations, help them through school and through life, help buy their first car, even driving lessons, etc. Another good thing is being there to experience all the first things with them, playing in the snow, going to peppa world and seeing that massive smile on their faces, going to see the fireworks, taking them swimming. The list literally doesn't stop! You also get to experience things like when they first get to sit up, crawl, walk, and with your help, it's even better like a proper good achievement! Don't be fooled by bad stories or things you've seen. It's wonderful being a parent. Even at a young age.

It's your time. Make the most of it.

Thanks for reading.

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